By Marie Babenko - I know that you want to get back together with your ex as soon as possible. I want this for you and I remember what it's like to feel that lonliness and loss.
But, these tips should help you to get your ex back more easily and quickly than if you were to follow your own instincts. This advice will help you to cut the learning curve that many have when it comes to exactly how to convince your ex to come back to you.
No matter if you have been broken up with your ex for a while or if they are sitting in the other room and you're not sure of what to do to get your ex to change their mind, you can and will get your ex back if you remain cool and calm. I'll share with you some tips that will help you no matter what your circumstances are. If you're here and you still have desire in your heart to get your ex back then there still is hope so you can be happy about that.
Try not to worry too much about getting your ex back. Worry leads to fear which can make you put a lot of pressure on yourself. Try not to create scenarios inside your head of what your ex might be doing, who they might be seeing or how your future is going to play out. These thoughts will only make you do desperate things to try to get your ex back.
Don't try to contact your ex to convince them to come back to you. Any talk about getting back together will only make you appear weak and needy. Your ex is only going to come back to you when they have the desire to be with you. Being needy and begging, pleading, crying or even wanting to talk about the breakup will make you appear weak and needy in your ex's eyes.
You might also be tempted to try to inadvertantly bribe your ex into coming back to you. Gifts, even ones that you say that you bought before the breakup, will not be accepted in the right light and they will only make you look desperate to your ex. Proclaimations of love and devotion will also backfire on you and even though you might honestly feel these feelings, your ex isn't feeling them right now.
Save the loving words, thoughtful gifts and your devotion for your ex for times after you get them back. After all, you want your ex to feel love and desire and longing for you because they love you and not because they feel sorry for you or because you did so many nice things for them, right?
Throughout your breakup I want you to maintain your dignity. I want you to show respect for yourself. I never want you to have to look back every again and say that you acted rather pathetically. If your ex has told you that it's over, I want you to leave with your head held high.
If your ex rejects you, simply walk away and live to fight another day. Try not to make matters worse by arguing or trying to make things right. Your ex isn't going to hear you and you're not going to be able to make your ex fall in love with you by correcting them or trying to straighten things out. Not now. Not until there is some desire on their part to be together.
Give your ex the space that they say they need to think things over. It might be that all it takes is a few days or a few weeks to realize that you're really gone. Sometimes this is all it takes for your ex to break down and decide that they made a mistake. Time has a funny way of smoothing things over and a few days or weeks might make your ex realize that the reason why they broke up with you wasn't really worth losing you after all. It's sort of like walking away in the middle of an arguement. Sometimes this keeps us from saying things that we might later regret and we might even forget what we were arguing about. If your ex wonders why you simply walked away you can tell them that you were simply abiding by their wishes and you wanted to give them the time and space to understand what they really wanted.
During this time you should be doing your best to get your life back together. You might be tempted to fall apart and go into self destruct mode. A breakup can be very painful but this is your time to really shine. This is your time to show what you're made of.
You are strong and you love your partner and the sooner you get yourself back in some sort of shape emotionally, the sooner you will be prepared to get your ex back. Honestly, isn't getting your ex back the best cure for what ails you right now?
Won't getting them back cure the pain from your breakup almost instantly? Be strong, deal with your emotions, make the changes that you need to make in your life and show your ex that you are the person that they fell in love with after all.
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